Introversion as a Form of Rudeness and Selfishness


KJ Dell’Antonia, an editor as well as columnist, is the writer ofthe article “Am I Introverted, or Just Rude?” Introverts aredescribed as anti social individuals who enjoy spending time alone.Even when in the company of other people, for instance at parties,introverts are highly likely to seclude themselves from socializing.Dell’Antonia questions whether such introverted behaviors can bedescribed as rudeness. She concludes that although introverts may benaturally reserved, they seem to care less about other people’sneeds, which leads to the conclusion that they are rude and selfish.

The author’s emphasis on her personal experiences as an introvertwho intentionally avoids people, the use of irrefutable facts aboutintroverts that have been made by different scholars and a reasonableanalysis of introversion, in addition to the use of emotional appeal,make the article persuasive.

All through the article, the author uses personal illustrations fromher own life to demonstrate how she has intentionally made thedecision to avoid people. By doing so, Dell’Antonia appeals toethos. She introduces the article by explaining that, together withher friend “they often play out roles in tandem. At parties, shetakes the lead, at meetings, she does the talking, I get to nod andsmile” (Dell’Antonia 1). This statement makes it clear thatDell’Antonia purposely makes the decision to remain silent in thepresence of people. She further explains that while some introvertsshy away from people because they “suffer from clinical socialanxiety”, she does not suffer from such a condition, but insteadprefers to spend time on her own (Dell’Antonia 1). The author alsonotes how she has walked out in meetings as well as school assembliesto avoid chatting. These personal examples support the argument thatat times, introverts behave in ways, which lead to the conclusionthat they are not being introverted but self-centered. Dell’Antoniaadditionally appeals to ethos through the use of sources to supportthe premise that introverts are rude. These include “renownedpsychologist Brian Little, leaders from the military and SiliconValley and the behaviorist Raj Raghunathan” (Dell’Antonia 1). Theuse of these sources enhances the article’s credibility. Itdemonstrates that the author has properly researched on the issue anduses the opinions of experts to present her argument.

Apart from ethical appeals, Dell’Antonia appeals to logos toenhance the relationship between introversion, rudeness andselfishness. This is apparent when she explains that “when I skipbig gatherings of strangers, I’m not just being a little rude tothe individual people around me, I’m being uncivil in a largersense” (Dell’Antonia 1). Another illustration is apparent in howthe author narrates her habitual lateness. After seeking assistancefrom a time management expert, she was asked “have you ever misseda plane? I had not. Then you can help it. You just care more aboutyourself than about the needs of others” (Dell’Antonia 1). Thelatter example has being used to illustrate how introverts willalways show up for events that have a direct effect on themselves.For instance, one would not want to be late for a flight, because itwould mean that he or she would have to pay extra to book anotherflight. On the other hand, when introverts are involved in issuesaffecting other people, they deliberately become inconsiderate to theneeds of others. An illustration is how the author was habituallylate, possibly when attending events she disliked. Dell’Antoniaalso quotes that the publication of books such as “Susan Cain’sQuiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking”,encouraged introversion by making “resistance to social intercoursecool” (Dell’Antonia 1). The article incorporates the findingsfrom an interview on introversion in young adults, which concludethat knowing one may be hurting other people’s feelings by failingto show up for events, or acting in manners that are deemed aloof isan illustration of selfishness and not introversion. The logicalappeals make the article persuasive, by convincing the reader thatintroverts willingly exclude themselves from social events.

Along with ethical and logical appeals, the article employs emotionalappeals to guide the leader into making the same conclusion as theauthor, which is the fact that when people make the resolution toavoid others, they are being rude and egocentric. Dell’Antonianotes that “on one delicious occasion, I sat in my car and read abook while my children attended a family-oriented athletic function…preserving her energy in self-care” (Dell’Antonia 1). In the lastparagraph, the author explains that while individuals might benaturally reserved and content being alone, all the “excuses foravoiding gatherings and conversations boil down to just that onething: we care more about ourselves than about the needs of others”(Dell’Antonia 1). This leads to the conclusion that introversion isa version of selfishness.

In conclusion, Dell’Antonia’s article is persuasive. She usesrhetorical appeals to inform the reader about the behaviors ofintroverts. Using these appeals, the author makes the conclusion thatintroversion is a form of self-centeredness and resonates to beingrude.

Work Cited

Dell’Antonia, KJ. Am I Introverted, or Just Rude? The New YorkTimes, 24 Sept. 2016. Web. 3 Oct. 2016.