How self-concept, perception and emotions impact interpersonal communication

Howself-concept, perception and emotions impact interpersonalcommunication

Interpersonalcommunication is defined as the exchange of information, meanings,and feelings through the use of both verbal and non-verbal messages.It is basically a face to face form of communication. Since there isa lot of visualization, it is true to say that interpersonalcommunication is not just about what is being said but how it ispresented. The receiver of the message looks at the tone of voice,body gesture and language and facial experiences (Erozkan, 2013). Forthis reasons, it is critical that one takes extra caution whencommunicating with others so as to avoid confusion ormisinterpretation of the message. Several factors can affectinterpersonal communication, the most common ones are self-concept,perception, and emotions. This essay is going to analyze how thedifferent elements can affect communication. It affirms thatdepending on how one handles them, self-concept, perception andemotions can have both positive and negative impacts on interpersonalcommunication.

Self-conceptand interpersonal communication

Incommunication, self-concept refers to the idea that one has about himor herself. It is basically all about how one perceive themselves. Itis often said that self-perception enables the understanding ofoneself and can be used to analyze life’s directions and decisions.When it comes to interpersonal communication, it is evident that aperson’s relationship with other people affect two areas ofself-concept, this include self-image and self-esteem. The first oneis mainly the descriptive part of self-concept while self-esteem isthe evaluate side.

Indaily interactions, self-concept and to be specific, self-esteemsignificantly affect how people communicate. For instance, somepeople can be said to be extroverts while others are introverts.Additionally, some people tend to be shy while others are outgoing.Consequently, there are those who consider themselves funnyregardless of if it is true or not. All these cases are affected bythe level of self-esteem in an individual and as a result dictatecommunication patterns. For example, suppose an individual has verylow self-esteem and is also an introvert, they are likely to have alot of challenges when communicating with others because being aroundpeople tend to drain energy from them. Additionally, since they haveonly a small group of close friends, they are likely to find ituncomfortable when holding conversations with a group of people.

Additionally,people suffering from low self-esteem or poor image of themselvestend to lack convictions when arguing with others. For instance, theyare easily overpowered by others and even when things are not goingtheir way, and they are likely to keep quiet. Self-esteem affect bodylanguage and gestures (Erozkan, 2013). For example, people who lackesteem fear looking into the eyes of others while conversing.Additionally, they may show other body gestures like fidgeting intheir seat while communicating and this can be misunderstood by theother party to mean discomfort or lack of attention. It is thereforeevident when it comes to effective interpersonal communication, oneshould have a firm conviction and self-esteem. Additionally, oneshould ensure that they effectively present themselves in a mannerthat show that they respect themselves and others around them.

Perceptionand Interpersonal Communication

Incommunication, perception entail being aware of the surroundingenvironment in a unique way. It involves processing, interpreting,selecting and organizing of information. For effective communication,people should therefore, spend time investigating the other partyinstead of judging them.

Thereare different factors that cause variations in perception in people.These include culture, current emotional state, past experiences androles. Even before the actual communication, people can havedifferent perception about each other and this can significantlydetermine if the conversation is going to be a success. For instance,in cases where either of the parties have interacted in the past andthere were conflicts, it is evident that they may perceive that thiswill affect current and future relations. Additionally, there aresome attitudes that people usually perceive to be harsh and mayjeopardize communication. Routine activities like greeting each otherbefore a conversation start and being cautions are all perceived tosignal good will and concern and may facilitate interpersonalcommunication effective communication (Lane, 2016).

Inregular conversations, an individual’s style and mannerisms oftendefine an individual’s social behavior. It may make someone beperceived as rude, shy and funny. In a workplace, when an employeemakes assumption based on stereotype beliefs, it is evident thatcommunication will likely be interrupted. In order to overcome suchobstacles, it is always recommended that one seek clarifications soas to know the true intention of the other party. Additionally,attire and how an individual has groomed him or herself has oftenalso affected communication. For an example, it is often perceivedthat the man in suit is the one that people should look up to whilethe one in dungarees is of lower value (Lane, 2016). These perceptionoften color communication because both parties may assume that if oneof them is wearing a suit, he or she is superior and will thus havean early advantage.

Basedon the above examples, it is evident that perception issues oftenresult in distortion and biases in judgment. In conversations wherepeople enter with preconceived opinion about each other based ontheir past experience or cultural differences, it is likely thatthere are going to be serious misunderstanding and troubles incommunication. There are various techniques that can be adopted byeither party to ensure that perception does not affect communication,some of these methods include seeking clarification from the otherparty, conducting enough research prior to the meeting to clear theair and being open minded. Additionally, it is always critical thatboth parties give each other ample time to explain their case beforemaking judgment. Similarly people should not always rely on testimonyfrom other people when making decision about attributes or charactersof others.

Emotionsand interpersonal communication

Emotionsare essential components of any communication. The emotional state ofa person can greatly impact interpersonal communication. Some of thecommon emotions include anger, joy, happiness, sadness, trust,surprise, depression among others. Positive emotions such as joy,happiness and trust tend to encourage interpersonal communication(Wood, 2015). It is usually interpreted by the other party to meanthat one is satisfied and comfortable with whatever is beingconveyed. Additionally, they help in creating a friendly environmentwhich facilitate communication even further. In incidences wherebyeither of the party have shown opposite emotions to the stated, theyis always some form of suspicion and discomfort.

Consequently,negative emotions such as depression, anger and sadness have a lot ofnegative impacts on interpersonal communication. Emotions such asdepression show total dissatisfaction and when it reaches such level,it should be evident to the parties that the conversation needs tostop. On the other hand, even before a conversation starts, emotionscan determine the extent of jokes that are going to be included(Wood, 2015). Emotions such as surprise before any conversation haveoften been interpreted to mean that either of the parties wasunprepared and has been caught off guard.

Lastly,emotions have often been used to judge if a conversation shouldproceed or stop. Some people when annoyed often put an angry face toshow their level of dissatisfaction. Additionally, others when happywith the topic will put a happy face and use body gestures and facialexpressions such as eye contacts and smiles. Additionally, someemotions such as trust tend to encourage interpersonal communication.Based on the discussion on emotions and interpersonal relations, itis evident that while interacting with other people, attention shouldalso be given emotions. A conversation may seem very interesting toone person yet hurtful to the other person. All this can be correctedif either of the participant checks out and analyze the emotionsdisplayed on the faces of their partners.


Itis evident that emotions, self-concept, and perception have a lot ofimpact on interpersonal communication. As people interact, they willalways show how much they are satisfied with whatever is beingdiscussed. Self-concept, for instance, allows one to defend his standduring a conversation while effective analysis of emotions can beused to determine if communication should proceed or stop.Additionally, perception can work for or against either party. Inmost cases, perception impairs decision making because not all thingsthat people wish to believe are true. Effective interpersonal skillsare thus determined by how well an individual manages the threefactors.


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