FAMILY AND DIVERSITY 5
Weddingsare considered to be one of the most memorable events that happen inpeople’s lives. Apart from this, the day is usually the bestoccasion for most of the couples since it marks the beginning of newadventures. There are important factors that should be looked intobefore a couple decides to tie the knot because according toresearch, marriage is considered complex and delicate. Prenuptialagreements are one of the important things a couple should discussand agree on before the big day. In this essay, various expectationsand obligations of a couple that is about to get married will bediscussed and analyzed.
Iam a fifty-three-year-old African American woman with an earning ofseventy thousand dollars per year. Apart from this, I have myinvestments, a car, a home and I make $70, 000 per year. I also run abusiness as the founder. My partner is a few years younger than I amand a university graduate, and he has some upcoming investments andsavings, but they are incomparable to mine. I am getting married in aweek’s time, and my partner and I are looking forward to a fruitfuland memorable wedding. I resorted to writing a prenuptial contractbecause given our age difference and variations in income I wish tostate from the start how I would like us to live as a couple. This isthe hardest part before the wedding because I am uncertain if mypartner will agree with my proposals and sign the required papers. Iam utilizing the conflict theoretical framework to establish thisbecause I am aware that even ideal marriages are bound to encountertrying tides.
Tobegin with, I have indicated in the prenuptial agreement that all theproperty is to be shared equally between us in the case of a divorce.I figured that this was for the benefit of both of us because I amaware of my partner’s financial problems’ but am certain he wouldsecure a well-paying job and be comfortable in time. To add to this,the probability of us divorcing is highly unlikely since we haveknown each other for some years and understand each other well. Withthis aside, I wanted to find out certain thoughts from my partnerconcerning the following obligations. My better half suggested that Ishould be the one to provide for the family since I am the stable onebetween the two of us (Gage, Kopf & Gromala, 2008). He was in noposition to finance all the needs and wants and this would continueuntil when he gets a job. I could not question his suggestion since Iunderstood his current condition. However, I expect him to contributeto the family once his job and investment flourishes.
Inthis case, I expect him to willingly agree to do most of the housechores when I am out at work since his business is still to start upand take much of his time. Furthermore, I expect him to agree to cookand do most of the household chores. However, the duties of the housewould be shared when I am at home, particularly during weekends. Ican partake in tasks and responsibilities such as washing of clothesand cooking, while he mows the lawn was assigned and cleans thegarage among other duties (Cohen, 2015).
SinceI am fifty-three bearing children is not a concern. However, we bothhave two teenage children from previous relations. Hence, for theinitial periods of our marriage, he will be a stay at home parenttaking care of the children when am out working although I will helpon my free days (Knight & Knight, 2013). This will continue untilhe gets employed after which we could hire a house maid to help. I amuncertain about the idea of the housemaid, but we have no otheroption.
Inconclusion, couples should understand each other and share theirthoughts on different matters affecting them. Sharing of ideas andthoughts is essential because it creates trust between them. The mostwidespread mistake that couples do is hastening the wedding, yet theyknow very little about their significant other. Therefore, before anyquick moves are made couples should take enough time to know eachother and prenuptial can help if a union turns out to beincompatible.
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Knight,L. G., & Knight, R. A. (2013). The Benefits and Limitations ofPrenuptial Agreements. CPAJournal,83(9), 62-66.