CASE STUDY 1
Emilyand Michael Consider Adoption
Emilyand Michael were unable to conceive naturally. Therefore, theydecided to pursue in vitro fertilization. Despite the significantoutlay of resources, the couple was unsuccessful after two attempts.Advancing age forced them to consider adopting a child from an agency(para.1). Their attorney proceeded to link them with a reputablesocial worker with extensive experience in such processes.Consequently, Emily and Michael decided to meet with a pregnantwoman, who had agreed to release her newborn infant for adoption.Notably, the lady desired to maintain a connection to her babythroughout his life (para.2).
Inevitably,I would be mortified at the prospect of having an open adoption.Constant communication with the birth mother would undermine theparent’s authority. Furthermore, she may feel the urge to dictatehow the child ought to be raised. The circumstances of the birthmother may also change such that she could support the child(para.1). In many instances, such women place an emotional plea fortheir infants when they become inundated with sorrow and regret. Whenadopted children grow older, they may learn of their birth parents.Hence, the latter would be emotionally devastated to know that theywere given up for adoption. Some children may suffer from lowself-esteem as they contemplate their self-worth. Therefore, openadoption would create far-reaching challenges for the biologicalmother, adoptive parents, and the child.
Nevertheless,if an adoption occurs, I would prefer the woman to have minimalinvolvement with the child. In fact, physical interactions would beprohibited to avoid fostering the emotional connection between thebiological parent and her baby. The mother would only receivebi-annual updates on the child’s wellbeing. Occasionally, I wouldsend some photographs.
While meeting with the pregnant woman, Iwould ask her several questions before agreeing to adopt her baby.For instance, I would inquire about the biological father and whetherhe would not want to have future interactions with the child. I wouldalso ask why she had decided to give her child up for adoption(para.1). Moreover, I would inquire about her family background toidentify whether the baby was likely to inherit genetic diseases(para.1). Additionally, I would ask how the mother coped during herpregnancy in terms of nutrition and living conditions (para.1). Admittedly, some answers would dissuade me from further considerationof adoption. For example, I would discontinue the discussions if shementioned that the biological father was contesting her decision.Besides, my interest would subside if the mother acknowledged thatshe had mild doubts about giving up her child for adoption. In manycases, such women are burdened with guilt owing to their decision. Iwould also quell my interest if her family members were prone togenetic diseases. Living under unsanitary conditions with minimalfood resources would expose the infant to numerous health risks.Therefore, I would look for another woman to evaluate whether I mayget better responses.
Adoptionis a complicated process that brings together people battlingdifficult circumstances. For instance, the biological mother hasminimal resources or interest to raise her child. On the other hand,the adoptive couple customarily lacks the ability to conceive usingnatural means. Notwithstanding, both parties need to consider theirsituation before proceeding with discussions. In particular, themother must be ready and willing to give up the natural rights to herchild. Similarly, the adoptive couple must be prepared to love andraise the infant as if it were their own. Considering thesecircumstances, Emily and Michael should decline the mother’srequest to maintain life-long connections to her child.
“Emilyand Michael Consider Adoption.”In Chapter 3.